Stupid people suck
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pallas_athena6
On one of the communities I'm on, someone asked how to deal with gay parents. So someone asked what people thought about gay teachers: should they be out or no. The person who posted the original question made the remark that teachers shouldn't talk about their sex lives, hete or or homo.
That's just such a fucking stupid statement. Because that's not the point. It's not like any gay teacher is going to stand up in front of a class and talk about how they have sex. The issue isn't sex life, it's family life. Straight teachers constantly talk about "my husband" or "my wife." Their SO's come to Back to School night or Open house and eat cookies and drink punch with everyone. They help set up the classroom go on field trips if they came. Sometimes, they drop by for parties or special occasions.
*That's* what the question really gets at. Does being gay or bi mean that you can't have your SO with you for special occassions. Does it mean I shouldn't refer to my girlfriend or wife in conversation with my kids. Do I have to be nothing but myself even if I'm part of a pair?
I'm not worried about this right now, because I'm not with anyone, nor do I need to be with anyone right now. I'm not interested in a relationship with anyone, man or woman, enough to a. look for one or b. be upset I'm not in one. If I were to meet someone, that'd be different, but it's not lacking in my life, so the issue of being a bisexual teacher isn't a big deal. I was a bisexual student teacher for a very conservative master teacher with little problem.
But it does bother me that people can't separate being homosexual with sex. Just as straight people aren't defined by their sex lives, neither are homosexuals. It's about love, and our lives are about how we live, not how we fuck.
pallas_athena6On one of the communities I'm on, someone asked how to deal with gay parents. So someone asked what people thought about gay teachers: should they be out or no. The person who posted the original question made the remark that teachers shouldn't talk about their sex lives, hete or or homo.
That's just such a fucking stupid statement. Because that's not the point. It's not like any gay teacher is going to stand up in front of a class and talk about how they have sex. The issue isn't sex life, it's family life. Straight teachers constantly talk about "my husband" or "my wife." Their SO's come to Back to School night or Open house and eat cookies and drink punch with everyone. They help set up the classroom go on field trips if they came. Sometimes, they drop by for parties or special occasions.
*That's* what the question really gets at. Does being gay or bi mean that you can't have your SO with you for special occassions. Does it mean I shouldn't refer to my girlfriend or wife in conversation with my kids. Do I have to be nothing but myself even if I'm part of a pair?
I'm not worried about this right now, because I'm not with anyone, nor do I need to be with anyone right now. I'm not interested in a relationship with anyone, man or woman, enough to a. look for one or b. be upset I'm not in one. If I were to meet someone, that'd be different, but it's not lacking in my life, so the issue of being a bisexual teacher isn't a big deal. I was a bisexual student teacher for a very conservative master teacher with little problem.
But it does bother me that people can't separate being homosexual with sex. Just as straight people aren't defined by their sex lives, neither are homosexuals. It's about love, and our lives are about how we live, not how we fuck.
