The Day After

[serafina20]

Thanksgiving went okay. For the most part, I talked with my cousins, spent some time talking with Aunt D., or played with the babies. At one point, my not-really-a-cousin, G., asked if my sister and I wanted to make a Starbuks run because "us younguns got to stick together." He even footed the bill. That was nice, because normally, we're just stuck in the house all day.

When asked about school, I just said everything was fine. My Aunt T. reminded me that last time we talked I'd "had a bad day." I just repeated that everything was fine. I don't know if she got the hint that I wasn't goign to talk about anything to her, but she did stop asking. Unforuntatly, she jumped to the topic of my personal life, which she's never done before. Apparently, now that I'm not going to college anymore, it's time to start looking for a man.

This will be the breaking point. I need to find a way to let her know, but if she continues to harrass me on things that are none of her business, I simply will not go to her house. It's bullshit. I don't need to get married, dont' particulary want to get married, and definetely wouldn't talk about anyone I'm seeing with her, even if I was dating a man. It's so completely not... her busienss, i can't imagine why she even brought it up.

My cousin's wife made a slight comment, too, but it wasn't exactly the same. She, my aunt, and my mother were talking about how ridiculous house prices were. She said something about how hard it'll be for me, or had I thought about it, or what was I going to do or something. I simply said I can't imagine it being a concern right now since I dont' know why I need a house. Because, I don't need a house. I'm a single woman with no kids. I don't have a serious boyfriend, I'm not pregnant, it's not an issue. Why should I even be thinking about it? I'm living at home. Plus, I'm not exaclty sure how the market goes, but I was under the impression that house prices wont' stay exorbirant for the rest of my life. And, even if they do, maybe I'll choose not to live in a house. Or maybe I'll become a famous writer and make enough money to afford a house.

Whatever. It's all so stupid. It's like people asking me if I'm planning on getting married. Why would I be planning on getting married? I'm not seeing anyone and it's not an issue. I find it a little artifical to want to be married for the sake of being married. To me, you want to get married beacuse there's a person you want to spend your life with, not becuase being married is what you do.

Wow, I'm in a pissy mood today.

Comments

[prim-rose-etta.livejournal.com]

I so agree.
Movies and TV have this stupid plan for people, especially women, but guys fall for it, too.
The only reason you might go for the house or condo purchase - but only after prices come down - is for your retirement years.......the price goes up over the years and you have your retirement money right under your feet...and even better if you can trade-up to a duplex, cuz then you can deduct so much of the upkeep expense that you aren't able to deduct for one's own home.
Just to let you know, it's better than stocks imo.

[serafina20.livejournal.com]

I'm interested in getting a condo for the reasons you listed, but the fact that I'm supposed to be worried right now, in my first year of teachign while I'm still living at home, is just stupid. Plus, the way I see it, a condo is designed more for single people, while a house brings to mind the image of a family, which I might not have. Hence my reaction to the stupidty.

But you are right about the beneifts, which I'm not discounting at all. I jsut get defensive. :)

[meret.livejournal.com]

I had an uncle who used to ask me that all the time. I finally told him I was engaged. He was black, (anathema to him), and I was going to see him for a conjugal visit next week at prison. He never brought it up again. That was many years ago. At my age now, my family assumes I must be gay since I'm not married. *rolling my eyes*

[chancecraz101.livejournal.com]

I have my own reasons for not getting married even though I've been dating my boytoy for about six years. Yet everytime there is a family get togther it's "When you getting married?". Like that is the only goal in a reletionship. We get married and everything will be perfect. Grrr.....
The only one who gets it is my dad though he was kind enough to point out that since we live toghter the state is going to common law marry us in two years.:)

[capnzebbie.livejournal.com]

I'm middle-aged and happily single. I pretty much have three standard answers I give when people ask me about marriage. 1. "I'm not a marrying kind of woman." 2. "I'm not a marriage-oriented woman." 3. "I've never met anyone with whom I thought I could stand to spend the rest of my life." Once I've given one of my stock answers, I stop talking. Feel free to use my strategy. This works with family, friends and nosy strangers. :)

I'm glad your Thanksgiving was better than you expected it to be.

[hey-miss-missy.livejournal.com]

Your icon kicks so much ass. So. Much.

[capnzebbie.livejournal.com]

Thank you! :)

[capnzebbie.livejournal.com]

p.s. re your icon--he's hot all the time, isn't he? :)

[hey-miss-missy.livejournal.com]

p.s. re your icon--he's hot all the time, isn't he? :)

Hee! Yep!

[hey-miss-missy.livejournal.com]

Yikes! How happy am I that I don't get the twenty questions from my family?! If my family thinks I'm gay at this point, they sure as hell aren't saying so.

As for buying a house, it seems so risky and overrated, especially when you're young and not established. Hey, just like marriage! *g*